Monthly Archives: June 2015
When it comes to adult issues like love affairs, most people fall into one of three categories. One category feels that having an affair is wrong, regardless of the circumstances and regardless of any potential mitigating circumstances. For them, the answers are black and white. The second category feels like it is something that happens sometimes, even if that was not something that someone intentionally set out to do. For this person guilt is usually a problematic component. The third category is often relatively indifferent to the situation and simply takes things as they come, meaning that it may be an acceptable proposition to them or it may not be, depending on various circumstances. This person usually feels no guilt and just accepts the affair as part of life.
Obviously, one of the biggest factors when it comes to love affairs is desire. People desire a person because of the way they look or the way they act. In all likelihood, it is a combination of these things. By the same token, there is probably something missing in the relationship that they currently have. Most people that are happily married do not set out with the intention of having an affair. Therefore, those that do are usually doing so because the desire is not present with their current partner. This can be because of a combination of different things.
Another thing that comes into play when it comes to love affairs is morality. Some people really struggle with the moral issues that center around having an affair, yet they find themselves neck deep in one. It is safe to say that there are times that the need for human companionship on an intimate level simply overtakes a person’s moral compass. Some individuals will judge a person that has a love affair very harshly while others will be more understanding of the circumstances that surround the situation. For most people, it opens a whole world of self doubt and even ridicule and in some cases; it brings shame on the individuals that are involved. However, people would be remiss to think that any person that has ever had a love affair is automatically an individual that has a lack of morals.
In some cases, it is even possible to have a love affair that is a rather healthy relationship. Imagine a scenario where a person is in a relationship where they are constantly abused, both verbally and physically. That individual then meets the love of their life, and they start to have an affair. That relationship is probably far healthier than the other one, yet they find themselves in both relationships at the same time.
Love affairs are complicated and in many cases, there is no clear-cut answer. Some people go through them with jubilation while others go through them was so much guilt that they are saddened beyond words. The truth is every individual has to make the decisions they think are best for them at the time. Sometimes these decisions are right and sometimes they are wrong. Making a wrong decision, however, does not mean that a person is devoid of morals, nor does it mean that their voice should not be heard.